The 158-Pound Marriage

"Oh, he was very handsome--like you're going to be," she would always answer, with a smile. "And he had oodles of derring-do." My mom was very affectionate to me, before I began to grow up.

I don't know if all preteen boys, and boys in their early teens, are as inattentive to linear time as I was, but it never occurred to me to examine the sequence of events. My father must have knocked up my mother in late May or early June of 1941--when he was finishing his freshman year at Harvard. Yet there was never any mention of him--not even in a sarcastic comment from Aunt Muriel--as the Harvard-boy. He was always called the code-boy (or the sergeant), though my mom was clearly proud of his Harvard connection.

"Imagine starting Harvard when you're just fifteen!" I'd heard her say more than once.

But if my derring-do dad had been fifteen at the start of his freshman year at Harvard (in September 1940), he had to be younger than my mother, whose birthday was in April. She was already twenty in April of '40; she was just a month short of twenty-two when I was born, in March of '42.

Did they not get married when she learned she was pregnant because my dad was not yet eighteen? He'd turned eighteen in October 1942. As my mom told me, "Obligingly, the draft age was lowered to that level." (I would only later think that the obligingly word was not a common one in my mother's vocabulary; maybe that had been the Harvard-boy talking.)

"Your father believed he might better control his military destiny by volunteering for advanced induction, which he did in January 1943," my mom told me. (The "military destiny" didn't sound like her vocabulary, either; the Harvard-boy was written all over it.)

My dad traveled by bus to Fort Devens, Massachusetts--the beginning of his military service--in March 1943. At the time, the air force was part of the army; he was assigned a specialty, that of cryptographic technician. For basic training, the air force had taken over Atlantic City and the surrounding sand dunes. My father and his fellow inductees were bivouacked in the luxury hotels, which the trainees would ruin. According to my grandfather: "No one ever checked IDs in the bars. On weekends, girls--mostly government workers from Washington, D.C.--flocked to town. It was very jolly, I'm sure--the firin' of all sorts of weapons on the sand dunes notwithstandin'."

My mom said that she visited my dad in Atlantic City--"once or twice." (When they were still not married, and I would have been a one-year-old?)

It was together with my grandfather that my mother must have traveled to Atlantic City for that April '43 "wedding"; this would have been shortly before my dad was sent to air force cryptographic school in Pawling, New York--where he was taught the use of codebooks and strip ciphers. From there, in the late summer of '43, my father was sent to Chanute Field in Rantoul, Illinois. "In Illinois, he learned the nuts and bolts of cryptography," my mother said. So they we

re still in touch, seventeen months after I'd been born. ("Nuts and bolts" was never big in my mom's vocabulary.)

"At Chanute Field, your dad was introduced to the primary military cipher machine--essentially a teletype, with an electronic set of cipher wheels attached to it," my grandfather told me. He might as well have been speaking in Latin; quite possibly, not even my missing father could have made the functions of a cipher machine comprehensible to me.

My grandfather never used "code-boy" or "sergeant" disparagingly, and he enjoyed reciting to me my dad's war story. It must have been as an amateur actor in the First Sister Players that my grandfather had developed the capacity for memorization necessary for him to recall such specific and difficult details; Grandpa was able to reiterate to me exactly what had happened to my dad--not that the wartime work of a cryptographer, the coding and decoding of secret messages, was entirely uninteresting.

The U.S. Fifteenth Army Air Force was headquartered in Bari, Italy. The 760th Bomb Squadron, of which my father was a member, was stationed at the Spinazzola Army Air Base--on farmland south of the town.

Following the Allied invasion of Italy, the Fifteenth Army Air Force was engaged in bombing southern Germany, Austria, and the Balkans. From November 1943 till September 1945, more than a thousand B-24 heavy bombers were lost in this combat. But cryptographers didn't fly. My dad would rarely have left the code room at the base in Spinazzola; he spent the remaining two years of the war with his codebooks and the incomprehensible encryption device.

While the bombers attacked the Nazi factory complexes in Austria and the oil fields in Romania, my dad ventured no farther than Bari--mainly for the purpose of selling his cigarettes on the black market. (Sergeant William Francis Dean didn't smoke, my mother had assured me, but he sold enough cigarettes in Bari to buy a car when he got back to Boston--a 1940 Chevrolet coupe.)

My dad's demobilization was relatively swift. He spent the spring of '45 in Naples, which he described as "enchanting and buoyant, and awash in beer." (Described to whom? If he'd divorced my mom before I was two--divorced her how?--why was he still writing to her when I was already three?)

Maybe he was writing to my grandfather instead; it was Grandpa who told me that my dad had boarded a navy transport ship in Naples. After a short stay in Trinidad, he was flown on a C-47 to a base in Natal, Brazil, where my father said the coffee was "very good." From Brazil, another C-47--this one was described as "aging"--flew him to Miami. A troop train north dispersed the returning soldiers to their points of discharge; hence my dad found himself back in Fort Devens, Massachusetts.

October 1945 was too late for him to return to Harvard in that same academic year; he bought the Chevy with his black-market money and got a temporary job in the toy department of Jordan Marsh, Boston's largest store. He would go back to Harvard in the fall of '46; his field of concentration would be romance studies, which my grandfather explained to me meant the languages and literary traditions of France, Spain, Italy, and Portugal. ("Or at least two or three of 'em," Grandpa said.)

"Your father was a whiz at foreign languages," my mom had told me--hence a whiz at cryptography, maybe? But why would my mother or my grandpa have cared about my runaway dad's field of concentration at Harvard? Why were these details even known to them? Why had they been informed?

There was a photograph of my father--for years, the only picture I saw of him. In the photograph, he looks very young and very thin. (This was late spring, or early summer, 1945.) He's eating ice cream on that navy transport ship; the photo was taken somewhere between the coast of southern Italy and the Caribbean, before they docked in Trinidad.

I'm guessing that the black panther on my father's flight jacket captured all or most of my childish imagination; that angry-looking panther was the symbol of the 460th Bomb Group. (Cryptography was strictly a ground-crew enterprise--even so, cryptographers were issued flight jackets.)

My all-obscuring fixation was that I had something of the war hero in me, though the details of my dad's wartime exploits were not very heroic-sounding--not even to a child. But my grandfather was one of those World War II buffs--you know, the kind who finds every detail intriguing--and he was always telling me, "I see a future hero in you!"

My grandmother had next to nothing positive to say about William Francis Dean, and my mother began and (for the most part) finished her evaluation with "very handsome" and "oodles of derring-do."

No, that's not entirely true. When I asked her why it hadn't worked out between them, my mom told me that she'd seen my dad kissing someone. "I saw him kiss someone else," was all she said, as perfunctorily as she might have prompted an actor who'd forgotten the else word. I could only conclude that she'd observed this kiss after she was pregnant with me--possibly, even after I'd been born--and that she saw enough of the mashed-lips encounter to know that it wasn't an innocent sort of kiss.

"It must have been a Frenchy, a tongue-down-the-throat job," my elder cousin once confided to me--a crude girl, the daughter of that imperious aunt I keep mentioning. But who was my dad kissing? I wondered if she'd been one of those weekend girls who flocked to Atlantic City, one of those government workers from Washington, D.C. (Why else had my grandfather mentioned them to me?)

At the time, this was all I knew; it was not a lot to know. It was more than enough, however, to make me mistrust myself--even dislike myself--because I had a tendency to attribute all my faults to my biological father. I blamed him for every bad habit, for each mean and secretive thing; essentially, I believed that all my demons were hereditary. Every aspect of myself that I doubted or feared surely had to be one of Sergeant Dean's traits.

Hadn't my mom said I was going to be good-looking? Wasn't that a curse, too? As for the derring-do--well, hadn't I presumed (at age thirteen) that I could become a writer? Hadn't I already imagined having sex with Miss Frost?

Believe me, I didn't want to be my runaway dad's offspring, his genetic-package progeny--knocking up young women, and abandoning them, left and right. For that was Sergeant Dean's modus operandi, wasn't it? I didn't want his name, either. I hated being William Francis Dean, Jr.--the code-boy's almost-a-bastard son! If there was ever a kid who wanted a stepfather, who wished that his mother at least had a serious boyfriend, I was that kid.

Which leads me to where I once considered beginning this first chapter, because I could have begun by telling you about Richard Abbott. My soon-to-be stepfather set the story of my future life in motion; in fact, if my mom hadn't fallen in love with Richard, I might never have met Miss Frost.

BEFORE RICHARD ABBOTT JOINED the First Sister Players, there was what my domineering aunt referred to as a "dearth of leading-man material" in our town's amateur theatrical society; there were no truly terrifying villains, and no young males with the romantic capability to make the younger and the older ladies in the audience swoon. Richard was not only tall, dark, and handsome--he was the embodiment of the cliche. He was also thin. Richard was so thin that he bore, in my eyes, a remarkable likeness to my code-boy father, who, in the only picture I possessed of him, was permanently thin--and forever eating ice cream, somewhere between the coast of southern Italy and the Caribbean. (Naturally, I would wonder if my mother was aware of the resemblance.)