All of that is to say that women need to wise up and stop overlooking the men who are capable of loving them right and chasing after the men that will treat them horribly. Most of the women cannot help that kind of mentality. If it is what they witnessed growing up, then it is their normalcy. Relationships without a bunch of drama and nonsense throw them off-kilter. They often do not know how to accept love, especially if they do not even love themselves. It has become a generational curse.
One way to sum all of this up is this way and I am going to use an analogy. We really need to try to salvage the family unit globally. It is becoming more and more impossible to do so with so many accepting so much less. Also, with men and women not being able to relate to each other. It is like this:
Image two beautiful Clydesdale horses hitched to a wagon together (a married couple). They both have their eyes on the road ahead, trying to get to the same place (a healthy marriage and prosperous life). Like most horses, they both have blinders on so that they cannot see what the other is doing (they have a lack of communication). They have two ponies attached to them from behind (a male pony behind the male horse and a female pony behind the female horse). All the ponies can see because of their own blinders are the respective adult horses directly in front of them (their parents). So the male pony will learn from, imitate, and repeat the actions of his father, and the female pony will do the same in regards to her mother. Thus, the choices that the parents make, the way that they interact with each other, and the morals that they establish will be revisited on their children, and then their children’s children, and so on.
That is why it is so important for people to truly lead by example. One cannot have several children out of wedlock, and then tell their kids that it is a sin to have sex outside of marriage. One cannot allow themselves to be abused over and over in the name of love, and then try to tell their children that abuse is wrong. One cannot squander their money on material things, and then try to impress the importance of saving on their children. One cannot abuse drugs and alcohol for the entire childhoods of their children, and then tell them to “just say no to drugs.” One cannot sit on their ass, refusing to work—not due to health issues but just because—and then tell their kids that they need to be not only working but up out of their homes by the age of eighteen. I am sure you get my drift.
Anyway, I am not trying to write another book within a book. I will vent about the rest of the things on my mind later. All I will say is that I hope The Other Side of the Pillow has somehow enlightened your perspective on relationships. I hope that it has somehow made you think about how important it is to accept that everyone has a past. I hope that it makes your thinking mature in some way and offers clarity on your outlook on life. There are many more aspects of the book that I feel could use some elaboration. However, if I did my job well enough, you’ll be able to figure them out.
As always, I love and appreciate each and every one of you.